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Opening Up The Enneagram
New Dimensions and Applications
Tom Condon


   This new audio program, recorded and edited from a live workshop, offers a variety of powerful methods and models that will help you change yourself and others.

Subjects Include:
The Meta Model.
An amazingly useful language model that has many intersections with the Enneagram. The Meta Model helps you recognize and respond to the language patterns of different Enneagram styles and offers linguistic distinctions that will help you communicate better with each one. If knowing someone's Enneagram style helps you speak their language, the Meta Model will help you speak their dialect.

 The Meta Model is most commonly used to gather high-quality specific information in situations where it is important to understand someone exactly. It is used by coaches, therapists counselors, business consultants to understand their clients' internal states and specific needs. The model is both a revealer of internal states and Enneagram styles and offers methods for altering both.

Meta Programs. Derived from Neurolinguistic Programming (NLP), Meta Programs are unconscious, deep-rooted patterns by which we filter our experience and shape our perceptions. Like Enneagram styles, Meta Programs help us create and sustain our subjective reality personal narrative.

 Meta Programs overlap with and nicely complement the Enneagram, giving the latter additional depth and texture, leading to new ways to use the Enneagram to change and grow. Meta Programs operate, in large part, unconsciously and come in two varieties, related to inner motivation and outer communication.

In this edited workshop we explore and experience the Meta Programs most relevant to the Enneagram. These include how people process information, make decisions, are motivated to change, set goals and what they generalize, delete and distort.

 

CD Review of
Opening Up The Enneagram
From the Enneagram Monthly

10 CDs, 10 hours, $79.95; or as a download $39.95

Opening up the Enneagram, Tom Condons new recorded seminar, responds to a question Enneagram students frequently ask. "Now that I know my style, what do I do about it?" Condon introduces two models and methods from NLP (Neurolinguistic Programming) and integrates them with the Enneagram in a new way.

The first, called the -Meta Model, deals with language. Enneagram 101 starts by identifying your focus of attention and language is the structure of that focus. The way we talk eliminates some information, emphasizes other and distorts a lot of reality. Condon devotes the first part of his seminar to explaining how we all employ some of these linguistic patterns. Then he explains how certain Enneagram styles prefer specific patterns which predictably shape their subjective reality.

Condon adopts almost a technical approach. His unifying concerns are a) how we create and maintain the reality of our Enneagram style and b) how to change and grow past it. He presents each style as dynamic, a moving inner structure. His explanations and examples are concrete and vivid. For example, Enneagram students know that many style Nines have a tendency to think globally and have some difficulty getting specific. What do they do that other styles do less of? They think and speak in generalizations: "It was always that way in those days." "We're going to have to change everything to make this whole thing work."

For coaches and counselors, Condons categories, taken largely from Neurolinguistic Programming (NLP) materials, are helpful coming and goingt recognizing and helping. Coming, you can recognize Enneagram styles by the -syllables they utter, and then to help clients, you can identify the patterns and then more aggressively, interrupt those patterns.

For example, a style Two will ignore her own needs and then meet those needs in others. She uses certain language patterns to accomplish this, especially one called "mind readiong." A Four will be certain that he does not meet the criteria of the group he aspires to. He will use specific speech patterns to express, reinforce and even create his emotional state. Think lamentations: description of misery to elicit deserved sympathy and justice.

The big three patterns that do all of us in are distortion, deletion and generalization. We tell the whole truth and nothing but the truth but only under oath and with outside help. We tell part of our version of some of the truth vaguely. And then only to some people under certain circumstances. By the end of Condon's seminar, one is convinced clear communication is a triumph, not an assumption. What instructed me as a coach was the liberating leverage provided by the clarifying patterns of the Meta Model.

The second subject area is called "Meta Programs." A series of patterns that connect well to the Enneagram. Condon starts, as does the Enneagram, with focus-what an individual sorts for, what they most often notice as well as ignore. For example, we may sort for people, activities, place, things or information. We may sort for more than one of these, usually, but in a hierarchy. Twos will want to know who will be at the meeting and a Seven will want to know what activity is planned. Both people may want to know both but with different intensity.

Besides focus, Condon deals with energy as he introduces other Meta Programs related to motivation: Do we run toward what we desire or away from what we fear or loathe? Are we concerned about internal or external rewards and standards? Do we look to our self or to others for our reference points? Every Enneagram style has a composite of these preferences. Condon is always careful to use words like "tend" and "frequently." These are not absolutes either in a style or an individual.

After sharing these patterns, Condon has style-specific groups flesh out how that works for them and report back to the general group. So we hear from all nine Enneagram styles. I found the differences among the subtypes more pronounced than I would have expected. A self-preservation subtype may have some clear divergence from a social subtype and Condon pointed out that often subtype preferences can be a source of greater friction in a relationship than the style itself.

Condon closes the workshop with his signature magic: demonstrations of changework, this time with a style Two and a style Eight. Both clients explore in depth how their Enneagram patterns were acting out in their lives. With an apparently casual interruption of their defenses, Condon enabled them to see with fresh and undefended eyes what they could do to solve several type-specific problems. Tom doesnt batter down defenses like say, Dr. Phil. He reminded me of Jonathan Swift's satire about the little folk of Lilliput. They bound their victim with a thousand threads. When Tom works with a client he loosens one thread at a time. It is breath-holding to listen to someone become free one thread at a time.



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